It's Official

Now I know I may not be as voluptuous, red-headed or sensual as Miss Joan Holloway from Mad Men but over the next few months she will be mentor as I embark on an exciting career change.

I've currently been signed on as the EA to a CEO of a large software tech firm in the Bay Area and couldn't be more excited! I will be using Joan as my fashion icon and mentor as I enter the workforce. I know, I know...I'm so much more of a Betty! But isn't it fun to play dress up?

Quote of the Day

"Women may be able to fake orgasms, but men can fake an entire relationship" - Sharon Stone

Some Men...

Are like fire hydrants, they just let women pee all over them.

Vintage Beauty

Paint your lips a violent shade of red, pour yourself a glass of champagne and tune Pandora to anything by Tony Bennett or Frank Sinatra. Lie back on your chaise lounge (if you don't have one, find one!) and bask in the glory that is your beauty.

I fundamentally believe that our society has taken women in the wrong direction when it comes to feeling sexy. The images we are given, day in and day out, are not only irrational but they are also typically unattainable. Saying that, no matter what size you are or how you feel about your shape, I believe that a woman should feel great from the moment she puts on her first piece of clothing, which is typically the infamous bra and panties. Why not feel sexy from the moment you touch clothing to skin?

Dollhouse Bettie's is an absolute wonderful location for not only sexy lingerie but also deliciously sweet nighties and gowns. From vintage to current trends, they have everything you are looking for. Garter belts, satin gowns and robes, bra and pantie sets, lace, bows, ribbon...What more to please the senses than the touch of these on your skin? The staff are more than helpful and give you plenty of space and time to try on whatever you need and desire.

I highly recommend this little shop and look forward to coming back soon. And ladies, let's bring sexy back, not for others but for ourselves!

*Photo courtesy of Dollhouse Bettie

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Be Fearful and You Will Be Lonesome

As of recently, I've been living into the future. Now, I'm not saying this is such a bad thing. Using the future to guide you can be productive and ward off ill-advised decisions. At the same time, the way that I was living into the future has prevented me from enjoying fully the present. And I have a lot of things to enjoy these days.

One of the great things that I have going on in my life is a new relationship with a guy that I not only respect and love as a dear friend, but find insanely attractive. Lucky for me, he's agreed to hang out with me and my pathetic crush exclusively. Go figure! But here's the problem, I don't really believe him when he says he wants to be with me. Silly right? Funny how insecurities can ruin a good thing. As for this man, he's quick to tell me to get off it and enjoy what we have. I persist with the fear that he'll dump me, which really means I am digging my own grave. Solution? Stop letting the fear (which I deem as real and it is NOT) write my future but instead in each moment create the space for an amazing relationship to take form.

Fear is a tangled web we create in a world that has grown excessively chaotic and muddled. With all the technology, news blasts and twitter updates, our minds are constantly focused on the ever present dangers and ramblings of society. Some fears, like the fear of being mauled to death by a bear who is growling in front of you, is very real. Others, like the ones I created above and the like, are completely and utterly useless as they are created in the mind. I am letting my insecurities create and feed the growing fire of fear. This is where I take action, recognize the type of fear I possess and come to place of surprising simplicity. This quotes sums it up:

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is God's gift, that's why we call it the present.”~Joan Rivers

What's in a Name?

Some labels, such as Chanel, Louis Vuitton, Gucci and Hermes are considered good labels. They are branded as sophisticated, elegant and noble. Unfortunately, there are some labels that one would rather do without....

Let's take a look at the names or labels I've had over the years:

Pagel's Girlfriend

Stephanie The Pi Phi

Baseball Card (loooong story)

The Mayor

It's funny what others call you when they speak of you to strangers or friends. I've had some of the above labels affectionately used for years. For example, Stephanie The Pi Phi was my main moniker for at least my first two years of sorority life and I fondly recall the nickname because it takes me back to a very fun, innocent and exciting time. The Mayor is a current label used to denote my status in the neighborhood. It's sassy and represents a certain level of notoriety that I love.

But recently I was referred to as The Blonde.

Now, I get it. I mean, I don't have a job and I have no real characteristics to differentiate myself. The only issue I have is that I was cross referenced to The Nurse. Obviously I'm not The Nurse. Now the real root of the problem: the third party was well aware of The Nurse but not The Blonde. Ouch. Turns out being compared to the other woman doesn't sit well with me.

As I mentioned, some labels are good and some are bad. Labels sometimes go out of style or you progress through them as you progress through life, taking on a new one at the next stage. The Blond will only be a temporary label, or at least I hope it's only temporary. Maybe I should dye my hair brunette?